Verses for When You Can't Forgive Yourself

Nine verses for when it won't lift

"For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things." (1 John 3:20)

This one starts by agreeing with you. The heart does condemn. It doesn't argue the feeling away, it just says there's something bigger in the room.

"For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me." (Psalm 51:3)

Ever before me. That's the replay, written down three thousand years ago.

"I acknowledged my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the LORD; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin." (Psalm 32:5)

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)

"As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us." (Psalm 103:12)

East and west is the one direction pair that never meets. North and south would have had a pole in the middle.

"I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins." (Isaiah 43:25)

"He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea." (Micah 7:19)

"There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus." (Romans 8:1)

"He saith unto him the third time, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me? Peter was grieved because he said unto him the third time, Lovest thou me? And he said unto him, Lord, thou knowest all things; thou knowest that I love thee. Jesus saith unto him, Feed my sheep." (John 21:17)

The fire of coals

That last one needs its setting.

Peter denied knowing Jesus three times, and John's account notes where he was standing when he did it: by "a fire of coals," warming his hands, because the night was cold (John 18:18). Then the rooster. Then, in Luke's telling, Jesus turns and looks at him, and Peter goes outside and weeps.

The next time that exact phrase appears is after the resurrection. The disciples come in from fishing and find breakfast waiting on the shore: "they saw a fire of coals there, and fish laid thereon, and bread" (John 21:9).

Same words. Second fire. And over that fire Peter gets asked the same question three times, once for each denial, and is handed a job each time.

Nobody says the word forgiveness. Nobody tells Peter to stop torturing himself about it. He is fed, asked whether he loves, and put back to work.

His last answer is worth sitting with next to the first verse on this list. Peter says, "Lord, thou knowest all things." The letter says God "knoweth all things" and is "greater than our heart." The thing you are afraid he knows is the thing he already knows.

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If it's someone else you can't let go of rather than yourself, the verses for when you hate someone are the other half of this.

A short prayer for when you can't let it go

God, I've asked you for this already, and it hasn't moved. I keep going back to it like pressing a bruise to check it still hurts. You know the whole thing, including the parts nobody else knows. Say it again, and help me believe it the second time. Amen.